Facebook fans: You spoke and I listened! Here is the first in our series of crunchy (read: natural or low-effort) beauty tips. It may sound crazy to recommend Conditioner Only Washing (No Shampoo) and I don’t pretend to be a beauty expert, but I know what makes me feel good. And if it makes ME feel good, maybe it’ll make some of you feel good, too! If you don’t like this series you should probably become a Facebook fan so you can shout me down when I float these hair-brained (HAIR BRAINED, GET IT?) schemes of mine.
What’s blogging without a giant confession, right? I have one. But first, I have to say, I can’t even believe I’m doing a Beauty Tips post.
I’m no Audrey Hepburn or Audrey Tatou or any other Audrey for that matter. I’m a stay-at-home mom of five boys. BOYS. I ask them to brush their hair and they run screaming from me like I’m brandishing a hot poker at them instead of a hairbrush.
I grab for a warm washcloth to fix a pudding smeared face and the screams might make you think I’m wiping them down with acid. I suggest that perhaps they might want to change the shirt they’ve been wearing for a week solid and it’s greeted with a befuddled look, shrugged shoulders and a “NothankyoumomI’mcomfy.”
In short? I’m pretty much on my own here. I don’t even have a frame of reference for what is trendy or hip or even socially acceptable any more, so honestly, I don’t know how many people are going to get squeamish over what I’m about to say.
…Which is this…
I haven’t used shampoo in two and a half years. Yes. That is my beauty tip. No shampoo. (I can hear you now, “…And you’re surprised your boys are gross?”) Obviously there’s a bit more to it or everybody would be doin’ it, right?
Here’s a little history. After I had my youngest son a little over nine years ago, I felt perpetually rumpled. I had just given birth to my fifth child in eight years.
Translation: I was lumpy and hormonal. Translation of the translation: out of shape, shedding hair like mad and had spotty skin. The hair that remained attached to my head was scarcely behaving better than the stuff that fell out in handfuls in the shower/on my pillow/standing still. It was cottony looking, dry and my scalp itched like mad. (Boy, do I sound like I was a looker or WHAT?!?)
I embarked on a path that seemed like a good idea to clear up my lumpybumpy body, skin and hair problems. I started buying expensive creams and shampoos from the salon. And that?
Well, it didn’t work and it left me with bottles and pots and jars and squeeze tubes of things that were disgustingly expensive and useless. Then I tried all-natural shampoos/conditioners/beauty products. That didn’t work at all either. And the blue aloe mud bug organic herbal tinctures and shampoos and salves and whatnot were even more expensive than the professional products.
About five and a half years ago, my bathroom closet was overflowing with what amounted to more than a car payment’s worth of things I’d never use again. As a last ditch effort, I turned to the internet and googled a string of keywords that sounded like the punchline in a fairy tale:
“Straw, Hair, Pimples, Balding, Magic Shampoo, Smooth, HELP”
Rumpelstiltskin didn’t show up, but I got a list of websites that said, “No Poo”.
“But I’m not constipated, my hair just looks like cotton balls!” thought I, until I read a little further. These blogs were all talking about giving up shampoo and solving their hair problems. “Er, okay. Whatever.”
But I was desperate enough at that point to keep reading.
Over the next couple of weeks, I tried the baking soda/vinegar solution that many no-poo-ers recommended. That worked for a while, but left my hair feeling sticky. My husband had sniffed my hair when I got out of the shower and told me I smelled like a pickle. (From him, that’s a compliment. Hubby loves pickles.) I, on the other hand, missed the pretty smells of shampoo.
I tried Wen by Chaz Dean because I saw the commercial on television and any guy who can toss his hair like the Breck girl seems like a pretty solid authority on silky hair. The problem there was that it was insanely expensive and I had long hair.
I knew it wasn’t a tenable long term solution and I was only feeling so-so about the results so it was tough to justify the cost.
I turned back to the omniscient interwebs for help and discovered yet another no-shampoo group who was less intestinally know as the co-only (short for conditioner only) crowd.
The long and short of co-only is that you only wash your hair with conditioner. Again, there’s a little more to it. You can’t just pick any old conditioner; it must be a silicone-free conditioner to keep from weighing your hair down.
There’s good news, though. ANYTHING in the Suave Naturals line is silicone free. In other words, one of the cheapest conditioners out there is perfect for the job, and it’s a good thing, too, because co-only washing consists of massaging palms-ful of conditioner in your hair and scalp and letting it stay there (preferably under a shower cap) while you complete the rest of your shower then rinsing it out.
In October of 2010, I tried it. I didn’t really have any great expectations. I figured I’d get out of the shower and find my hair lank and greasy and my scalp itchy. “This is it,” I told myself, “If this doesn’t work, I’ll just cut my hair short and go back to using shampoo.”
I was shocked to find it was the opposite. My hair felt as smooth as silk and not weighed down in the least bit. For the first time in almost a decade, my scalp didn’t itch to the point where I felt like clawing it off. And ladies?
When I tell you my hair looked good, I mean it looked goooooooooooood. As in it behaved and did what I wanted it to when I wanted it to do it with little effort and almost no product and smelled pretty to boot.
The next time I went to my hairdresser, I screwed my courage to the sticking point and confessed what I was doing. She said, “Wow! Are you kidding? Your hair looks great. I’ll have to tell some of my other clients about this.” I haven’t looked back from that point on and I’ve been conditioner only washing for four and a half years now.
IMPORTANT UPDATE: My hairdresser has gone on to recommend this to many of her clients and they have reported back with great results.
I wouldn’t yank your leg on this, folks. It truly has been the holy grail for me. When I gave up shampoo, it didn’t just clear up my hair problems, it eliminated my skin problems completely.
The pimples and acne that I had been blaming on my poor choice in beauty products and/or hormones went away almost overnight.
What I learned AFTER finding what worked for me was that shampoo was stripping the natural, protective oils from my hair and scalp and face (by virtue of its proximity to my hair- thank heavens). In order to make my skin and hair behave after doing that, I had to replace what I could with conditioner in my hair and lotions on my face.
For whatever reasons, my fish-belly pale skin was too sensitive for this routine. Eliminating the shampoo/conditioner cycle did the job for me.
Is this a solution for everyone? Maybe, maybe not. Some people have reported an adjustment period where their hair and skin acted like a petulant, oily child for a week or a month or so before becoming bouncin’ and behavin’.
I had zero funky down time with my hair when I switched to conditioner only. In the interest of full disclosure, I have never in life been a wash-my-hair-every-day kind of girl. The only time I’ve washed my hair two days in a row is after exceptionally sweaty gardening excursions or after a child threw up in it or used my hair as a napkin or -worse- a hanky.
Oh, come on… you KNOW it’s bound to happen with five kids, right?
Here’s my point. It’s worth a try if you’re frustrated with how your hair is treating you or horrified by the amount of money you have to spend to make your hair do what you want it to do. Let me break down the specifics on how I conditioner only wash my hair.
How to Conditioner-Only Wash Hair:
- Wet your hair thoroughly in the shower, massaging your scalp.
- Squirt a palmful of silicone-free conditioner into your hand and massage it into your scalp and the hair near it.
- Squirt another palmful of silicone-free conditioner into your hand and massage it into the rest of your hair. Repeat this until all of your hair is saturated with the conditioner. If your hair is thick and lower-mid back length like mine, you’ll need about 4 palms-ful to coat your hair and scalp.
- Pile your hair on your head to keep it out of the shower stream. If you have one, put a cheap-o shower cap on to keep the conditioner from rinsing away.
- Complete whatever else you need to in the shower; wash your bod, shave, whatever.
- Add a splash of water to your hair and scrub your scalp again, then rinse your hair fully.
- Dry/Style/Whatever your hair as usual. For me, most often this means blow-drying my bangs so they don’t lay funny and letting the rest of my hair do whatever it wants. This is what works best for me!
- Do this two to three times a week. Unless you’re working out HARD daily or having someone wipe boogers in your hair, this should be sufficient.
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Use this for Conditioner Only Washing (No Shampoo):
- Suave Naturals Coconut Conditioner (This 6 pack is a “Subscribe and Save” option on Amazon, meaning they automatically ship to you every month, two months, three months, or however often you specify!)
I’m feeling a little sheepish about even bringing this up here, so help a gal out. What do you think? Am I nuts? Would you ever try it? Do you want to sniff my hair to verify I don’t smell like a fryolator before giving it a shot or is this just completely off the table for you? Talk to me!
Update: This post was originally published February 15th, 2013. Because it has been more than two years since publication and because I am still going co-washing strong, I wanted to bring it back to the front for the benefit of those who may not have seen it yet. The number of people for whom this has made a huge difference -as evidenced by the comments below- is pretty awesome.
Reader's Thoughts...
bridget {bake at 350} says
Yes! Yes!!! No-poo is a big thing in the curly world. We NEED those scalp oils to help our curls look pretty. I use a LOT of product to tame this mane, so when it starts getting gunky, I mix a paste of baking soda and water and scrub out all of the build-up….then follow with a good deep conditioner.
It’s funny, whenever I get my hair cut, when they ask what products I’m using and I say, “no shampoo,” they quietly say, “good job…keep doing that!” I guess they don’t want the salon managers to hear them NOT selling product.
You DO have the prettiest hair, Rebecca!
Rebecca says
Aw thanks, Bridget! I envy your gorgeous curls and I think it’s funny that we’ve spent this much time together without divulging our mutual no-poo status. 🙂
Rie says
My sister-in-law has become a devotee of the Big-name (read: expensive) no shampoo stuff. I am going to pass this along to her. I think I will give this a try myself when I run out of my shampoo. Thanks for sharing!!!! Please continue to post “stuff” like this as I don’t have a face book account (I know…….please don’t think me crazy). So enjoy your blog. Have made several recipes and planning on doing the clarifed butter today/tomorrow. Wish I had your Amish neighbors as suppliers….You are a lucky girl….
Miss @ Miss in the Kitchen says
This is so interesting! I have three boys and had to giggle at the no need to change shirts and the screaming as you try to wash their faces or comb their hair. BOYS! I think I’m going to give it a whirl.
BornInaZoo says
I’ve been conditioner only for 7 years. The last time I went in to get a trim there was a new stylist at the salon. When she saw that my stylist didn’t wash my hair before conditioning she said, “I think you missed a step.” All of the other stylists told her that I don’t wash my hair. (They know me well.) By the look of shock on her face, you’d think she was about the get run over by a Mack truck.
wenders says
Thank you for this post. I seem to be ok with the shampoo/conditioner I use, and I switch it up to what’s on sale at Costco. But…I have been wanting to try the all natural, no shampoo business, because it’s way cheaper, and the shampoo ingredients are all foreign….I’ve been just too scared and lazy to try. However, I have never heard of the conditioner-only method. And to use Suave too boo! Funny thing is, I’ve been avoiding Suave shampoo because it seems to strip the oils from my skin/scalp. I used it in college and gave me the itchy skin. But…. the Suave conditioner is actually helpful? That is news to me….so for that alone, I thank you for this post!
My pre-teen daughter seems to have itchy, dry scalp even right after she showers….I’m inclined to have her give this a try. And my aging MIL, whom I help wash her hair, seems to be shedding a lot of her hair when I wash it, which has been concerning, and we were just using V05 shampoo-only. And well, she just ran out of shampoo yesterday and I need to get her more. Perhaps I shall try it on her too, and skip the shampoo altogether and just use conditioner!
Other than Suave, what other silicon-free conditioners are out there, and does the conditioner out right state that it is silicon free or that the words “silicon” is listed in the ingredients? We get V05 when it’s on sale, will that work?
Thanks again for your willingness to post this, I have certainly learned a lot!
Renee says
V05 is on this list of silicone free conditioners! http://nopoohair.blogspot.com/2009/07/list-of-silicone-free-conditioners.html
wenders says
THANK YOU!
Marian says
I have fine hair and I’m in my late, God help me, 50’s. It’s also oily, so I wash every single day and I do not use conditioner. Ever. I let my hair air dry. I don’t have any problem with not rinsing until I’m done with the shower because that’s my routine. I’m having a major c-spine surgery real soon and showering and washing my hair could get to be an issue so I’m game to try this. I use Suave anyway. My hair has been falling out from pain meds or something, maybe stress. I’ve wanted great hair since I was a kid. Am I going to come out with a great neck (after 4 tries) and great hair? Finally?
Rebecca says
I hope your surgery goes smoothly, Marian! I’ll say a prayer for you. And please let me know if you try out the co-washing! It really did make the difference to me.
Alexis S says
I feel like I’m right at that stage where you were trying all sorts of expensive products. None of them really work! The price of my hair and face products increases with each child I have! haha! It’s getting ridiculous and I’m running out of options (that don’t make me feel super guilty for buying). I’m DEFINITELY giving this a shot!!! Thank you 🙂
Amy says
I remember you telling me about this a year ago. I never tried it because I exercise so vigorously every day, I couldn’t imagine not washing my hair. But maybe… I don’t know. You know how Orphan Annie curly I am. I willing to bet it wouldn’t work on my nest 🙁 I’d kill for your hair.
Rebecca says
I dare you to try it, Amy. DARE YOU. Try rinsing every other day!
BornInaZoo says
I have poodle-head curls & have been conditioner only for 7 years… even when I sweat or get it full of sawdust. It has made me adore my curls plus made them so much more manageable.
Rebecca says
Awww… You all are awesome. Thank you for not laughing me out of town! Hen party at my place!
ajmal says
I have very thin wavy hair. Will this make my hair straight?
Rebecca says
I wish I could answer that for you, but I really only know how it’s worked on my hair. It’s really quite a cheap experiment to try it, though… Please let me know how it works out for you if you give it a shot.
Kim @ Soliloquy Of Food & Such says
I love this crunchy post! I have done the pickle/vinegar thing before too. Less is deninetly more, especially with hair care products.
Kim @ Soliloquy Of Food & Such says
shb……definitely
Carrian says
I want to so it just so I can say I “no-poo”
Rebecca says
Oh yes, Carrian. I think we should swan our no-poo-ing about at the next blogger event. 🙂
pamela says
tshirts?
no-poo foodies!!!
(well, maybe that’s not a very reassuring slogan)
Rebecca says
If Carrian wears one, I will. 🙂
Stacy says
I am definitely trying this! Thanks for sharing!
emily W. says
Sooo… I’ve been an Aveda girl for several years now, but after my husband realized how much the stuff cost he decided I need to find something else. Poop. I was thinking about asking for shampoo and conditioner for my upcoming birthday (uh, hello lame), but then he went all awesome on me and sprung for tickets to Cirque’s Quidam, of which it has been a (nearly) lifelong dream of mine to see live. Anywho. Point being…
This post could not have come at a better time as I a) am about to run out of my Aveda, b) was interested in but rather skeptical about the vinegar methord and c) happen to have an abundance of Suave natural shampoo/conditioner sitting under a cabinet taking up space. So…seriously, thanks. I’ll have to try this. After church on Sunday, though. I can wear at a hat to the gym. Not so much to church.
P.S. Is it creepy that I think we’d be buds in real life? Do you get that a lot? Except I’m way behind on Dr. Who. As in never seen it. But all my good friends have.
P.P.S. Looking out for more crunchy tips…
Rebecca says
Well catch up on that Doctor Who, then! Not creepy! 🙂
Daria says
I might have to try this as my scalp has been really itchy lately.
Leslee Caauwe says
I’m going to try this as well. I have fine hair and because I have to take Rhumatoid arthritis medications it has been thinning lately. My hair is white so it looks like I’m going bald in spots. A friend sent me your link. Thanks for the info.
Rebecca says
You’re very welcome, Leslee! I hope it works as well for you as it does for me!
Michelle says
I was at a loss as the front area where I usually am adjusting and retouching with the hot iron of my hair was frazzled, straw like and absolutely crunchy to the touch. Constant breakage and i could not get it to grow as I am trying to get my hair all one length! I just started just conditioning for about 4 days now and have noticed a difference already!! So I googled and read your blog!!! Absolutely unbelievable!!!! So thrilled!
Kym says
I’ve been conditioner only for about the same period of time, and my naturally curly hair is AMAZING. The best, healthiest hair I’ve ever had. I wholeheartedly recommend it!
Ps: I just found your blog a few weeks ago and ohmygodiloveitandimahugefangirl…. Ahem. Thanks. We wnt speak of this again.
Rebecca says
Thanks, Kym, for backing me up!! And for being so sweet!
pamela says
i’m superty glad to know this works for people with curly hair. makes me even more exciteder to try.
Rebecca says
I bet your curls will rawk, Pamela.
Charlene says
Pamela, I have the opposite of curly hair, but Kim at zoot.com has been doing this for years. She has super thick, very curly hair, and she loves it.
Rene says
I used to be a wash EVERYDAY kind of girl but as I have let my hair grow out I have noticed it looks better to wash every other day. I still am dealing with very oily hair and skin though….I just might try this.
Gaby says
I’m not gonna lie. I was going nuts because i ran out of shampoo and i came across this and i’m about to try it out! I ALWAYS finish my shampoo before my conditioner because of my long hair, and i honestly can’t wait to try this! If it works i’ll be sticking to it.
Rebecca says
That’s awesome, Gaby! That’s one of the exact problems I used to run into. Hair down the middle of my back and I always ran out of shampoo first. 😀
Amber says
Well, this sounds awesome! I have completely thin, fine hair, I wonder how this would work for me? I’ll have to try it!
k says
Before switching to this when you scratched your head would you get light yellow stuff under your fingernails?
Rebecca says
I can’t say that I remember one way or the other, but I’m inclined to say that I think I may have every now and then.
Michaela Watts says
Yes! This ACTUALLY works! I’ve been doing it for a couple weeks now and my hair feels and looks awesome! Shampoo did terrible things to my hair, dried it out like crazy considering I have very thick but fine hair. I greatly recommend this to everyone!!!
Jj says
What kind of conditioner did you use
Rebecca says
Hi there! If you read the body of the post, I’m pretty sure I mentioned that I used Suave Naturals Coconut Conditioner. It is thankfully wicked inexpensive and widely available at Walmart, Dollar General, Target, and many grocery stores.
alexis says
Does this routine make your hair grow longer too? And is using suave mint+rosemary alright ?
Rebecca says
I don’t know… I can only speak from my own experience and say that overall my hair looks and feels better and my scalp is healthier! I’d say play around with conditioners and find the one you like best.
Jeanene says
Great post! I have been no-pooing for a while, the baking soda and vinegar routine, and haven’t had many problems. I might have to get some conditioner and give this a try though! I do tend to have an itchy scalp, but it’s much better since I gave up shampoo.
pamela says
seriously, people, rebecca has the best hair EVAR. (yes, valley girl style). sadly, i learned about this whole co-only business after two years of wanting to pet her hair (only a little), and right after i bought a gallon each of fancy shampoo and conditioner. when that stuff’s gone, i’m going to co-opt the co-only.
sincerely,
pamela
real-life friend