Facebook fans: You spoke and I listened! Here is the first in our series of crunchy (read: natural or low-effort) beauty tips. It may sound crazy to recommend Conditioner Only Washing (No Shampoo) and I don’t pretend to be a beauty expert, but I know what makes me feel good. And if it makes ME feel good, maybe it’ll make some of you feel good, too! If you don’t like this series you should probably become a Facebook fan so you can shout me down when I float these hair-brained (HAIR BRAINED, GET IT?) schemes of mine.
What’s blogging without a giant confession, right? I have one. But first, I have to say, I can’t even believe I’m doing a Beauty Tips post.
I’m no Audrey Hepburn or Audrey Tatou or any other Audrey for that matter. I’m a stay-at-home mom of five boys. BOYS. I ask them to brush their hair and they run screaming from me like I’m brandishing a hot poker at them instead of a hairbrush.
I grab for a warm washcloth to fix a pudding smeared face and the screams might make you think I’m wiping them down with acid. I suggest that perhaps they might want to change the shirt they’ve been wearing for a week solid and it’s greeted with a befuddled look, shrugged shoulders and a “NothankyoumomI’mcomfy.”
In short? I’m pretty much on my own here. I don’t even have a frame of reference for what is trendy or hip or even socially acceptable any more, so honestly, I don’t know how many people are going to get squeamish over what I’m about to say.
…Which is this…
I haven’t used shampoo in two and a half years. Yes. That is my beauty tip. No shampoo. (I can hear you now, “…And you’re surprised your boys are gross?”) Obviously there’s a bit more to it or everybody would be doin’ it, right?
Here’s a little history. After I had my youngest son a little over nine years ago, I felt perpetually rumpled. I had just given birth to my fifth child in eight years.
Translation: I was lumpy and hormonal. Translation of the translation: out of shape, shedding hair like mad and had spotty skin. The hair that remained attached to my head was scarcely behaving better than the stuff that fell out in handfuls in the shower/on my pillow/standing still. It was cottony looking, dry and my scalp itched like mad. (Boy, do I sound like I was a looker or WHAT?!?)
I embarked on a path that seemed like a good idea to clear up my lumpybumpy body, skin and hair problems. I started buying expensive creams and shampoos from the salon. And that?
Well, it didn’t work and it left me with bottles and pots and jars and squeeze tubes of things that were disgustingly expensive and useless. Then I tried all-natural shampoos/conditioners/beauty products. That didn’t work at all either. And the blue aloe mud bug organic herbal tinctures and shampoos and salves and whatnot were even more expensive than the professional products.
About five and a half years ago, my bathroom closet was overflowing with what amounted to more than a car payment’s worth of things I’d never use again. As a last ditch effort, I turned to the internet and googled a string of keywords that sounded like the punchline in a fairy tale:
“Straw, Hair, Pimples, Balding, Magic Shampoo, Smooth, HELP”
Rumpelstiltskin didn’t show up, but I got a list of websites that said, “No Poo”.
“But I’m not constipated, my hair just looks like cotton balls!” thought I, until I read a little further. These blogs were all talking about giving up shampoo and solving their hair problems. “Er, okay. Whatever.”
But I was desperate enough at that point to keep reading.
Over the next couple of weeks, I tried the baking soda/vinegar solution that many no-poo-ers recommended. That worked for a while, but left my hair feeling sticky. My husband had sniffed my hair when I got out of the shower and told me I smelled like a pickle. (From him, that’s a compliment. Hubby loves pickles.) I, on the other hand, missed the pretty smells of shampoo.
I tried Wen by Chaz Dean because I saw the commercial on television and any guy who can toss his hair like the Breck girl seems like a pretty solid authority on silky hair. The problem there was that it was insanely expensive and I had long hair.
I knew it wasn’t a tenable long term solution and I was only feeling so-so about the results so it was tough to justify the cost.
I turned back to the omniscient interwebs for help and discovered yet another no-shampoo group who was less intestinally know as the co-only (short for conditioner only) crowd.
The long and short of co-only is that you only wash your hair with conditioner. Again, there’s a little more to it. You can’t just pick any old conditioner; it must be a silicone-free conditioner to keep from weighing your hair down.
There’s good news, though. ANYTHING in the Suave Naturals line is silicone free. In other words, one of the cheapest conditioners out there is perfect for the job, and it’s a good thing, too, because co-only washing consists of massaging palms-ful of conditioner in your hair and scalp and letting it stay there (preferably under a shower cap) while you complete the rest of your shower then rinsing it out.
In October of 2010, I tried it. I didn’t really have any great expectations. I figured I’d get out of the shower and find my hair lank and greasy and my scalp itchy. “This is it,” I told myself, “If this doesn’t work, I’ll just cut my hair short and go back to using shampoo.”
I was shocked to find it was the opposite. My hair felt as smooth as silk and not weighed down in the least bit. For the first time in almost a decade, my scalp didn’t itch to the point where I felt like clawing it off. And ladies?
When I tell you my hair looked good, I mean it looked goooooooooooood. As in it behaved and did what I wanted it to when I wanted it to do it with little effort and almost no product and smelled pretty to boot.
The next time I went to my hairdresser, I screwed my courage to the sticking point and confessed what I was doing. She said, “Wow! Are you kidding? Your hair looks great. I’ll have to tell some of my other clients about this.” I haven’t looked back from that point on and I’ve been conditioner only washing for four and a half years now.
IMPORTANT UPDATE: My hairdresser has gone on to recommend this to many of her clients and they have reported back with great results.
I wouldn’t yank your leg on this, folks. It truly has been the holy grail for me. When I gave up shampoo, it didn’t just clear up my hair problems, it eliminated my skin problems completely.
The pimples and acne that I had been blaming on my poor choice in beauty products and/or hormones went away almost overnight.
What I learned AFTER finding what worked for me was that shampoo was stripping the natural, protective oils from my hair and scalp and face (by virtue of its proximity to my hair- thank heavens). In order to make my skin and hair behave after doing that, I had to replace what I could with conditioner in my hair and lotions on my face.
For whatever reasons, my fish-belly pale skin was too sensitive for this routine. Eliminating the shampoo/conditioner cycle did the job for me.
Is this a solution for everyone? Maybe, maybe not. Some people have reported an adjustment period where their hair and skin acted like a petulant, oily child for a week or a month or so before becoming bouncin’ and behavin’.
I had zero funky down time with my hair when I switched to conditioner only. In the interest of full disclosure, I have never in life been a wash-my-hair-every-day kind of girl. The only time I’ve washed my hair two days in a row is after exceptionally sweaty gardening excursions or after a child threw up in it or used my hair as a napkin or -worse- a hanky.
Oh, come on… you KNOW it’s bound to happen with five kids, right?
Here’s my point. It’s worth a try if you’re frustrated with how your hair is treating you or horrified by the amount of money you have to spend to make your hair do what you want it to do. Let me break down the specifics on how I conditioner only wash my hair.
How to Conditioner-Only Wash Hair:
- Wet your hair thoroughly in the shower, massaging your scalp.
- Squirt a palmful of silicone-free conditioner into your hand and massage it into your scalp and the hair near it.
- Squirt another palmful of silicone-free conditioner into your hand and massage it into the rest of your hair. Repeat this until all of your hair is saturated with the conditioner. If your hair is thick and lower-mid back length like mine, you’ll need about 4 palms-ful to coat your hair and scalp.
- Pile your hair on your head to keep it out of the shower stream. If you have one, put a cheap-o shower cap on to keep the conditioner from rinsing away.
- Complete whatever else you need to in the shower; wash your bod, shave, whatever.
- Add a splash of water to your hair and scrub your scalp again, then rinse your hair fully.
- Dry/Style/Whatever your hair as usual. For me, most often this means blow-drying my bangs so they don’t lay funny and letting the rest of my hair do whatever it wants. This is what works best for me!
- Do this two to three times a week. Unless you’re working out HARD daily or having someone wipe boogers in your hair, this should be sufficient.
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Use this for Conditioner Only Washing (No Shampoo):
- Suave Naturals Coconut Conditioner (This 6 pack is a “Subscribe and Save” option on Amazon, meaning they automatically ship to you every month, two months, three months, or however often you specify!)
I’m feeling a little sheepish about even bringing this up here, so help a gal out. What do you think? Am I nuts? Would you ever try it? Do you want to sniff my hair to verify I don’t smell like a fryolator before giving it a shot or is this just completely off the table for you? Talk to me!
Update: This post was originally published February 15th, 2013. Because it has been more than two years since publication and because I am still going co-washing strong, I wanted to bring it back to the front for the benefit of those who may not have seen it yet. The number of people for whom this has made a huge difference -as evidenced by the comments below- is pretty awesome.
Reader's Thoughts...
Veronica says
You look stunning! Thanks for this 🙂 I’m going to give this a try…
Mimi says
I have curly hair which over the years has turned dry and frizzy so I’ve been straightening it. Which is time consuming. I’ve been washing with conditioner only for a week now and have tons of shiny curls. No frizz at all. This is amazing and I’m happy with my hair again. No more fighting frizz.
Eloisa says
I just tried CO today and liked the outcome, I have long naturally curly hair, my hair gets oily and I was worried, but it felt clean and styled great. I was wondering what everyone who has seen an improvement in their skin is using to wash and care for their skin?
Rebecca says
I’m glad you are having success with it! I use cetaphil facial soap and either extra virgin coconut oil or Argan (Moroccan) oil for moisturizer. It is good stuff!
dash says
Oh my!!! When I saw your first pictu re I thought you were either an older looking teenager ir in your early 20s,, and then I saw that u have five kids!! holy crap!!!
chelle says
hey sonya, wondering what condish youre using?
Lisa says
I’ve got curly hair and have been condition only for gosh, almost 10 years now. I knew it worked wonders for curly hair, but didn’t know it would work for straight hair. Interesting that shampoo is pretty damaging for non “curly girls” as well as non “curly guys.”
Beth says
Thanks for this post. I’ve been doing the “no-poo” method for a little over a month now. It’s been sketchy but not horrible. Recently I read about rinsing your hair with white vinegar first, then try the bs/acv combo. I showered last night and my hair felt awesome and was drying well. Woke up and a bit staticy and rumpled. Maybe I shouldn’t sleep on it to let it dry 🙂
As the day progressed the static continued. Fortunately no waxy nape of the neck yet – maybe that’s the white vinegar.
I’m going to give it a bit longer to see if it can’t right itself but if not this is a great alternative. I appreciate your info and candor {boogers in hair sounds like fun :p not really :)}
Check out the progress on my blog
Caroline says
I am dying to try this but am afraid of the transition time… I have bangs and the opposite problem you had. I have overly oily hair. I’d like to try it b/c I imagine the shampoo is causing major overproduction of sebum making it worse than it need be but my bangs literally look greasy and clumpy by 5pm even with the daily wash.
Rebecca says
I suspect you’re right about it kicking your oil production into overdrive, but I’m just a food blogger! 🙂 Would you try dry-shampoo (See GimmeSomeOven.com for a recipe!) between conditioner washes?
Ursula says
You might also try WO in between.(Water Only). Other longhair wearers do this. If it works for you, great.
Pay attention to how your hair looks, needs, and growth rate after these treatments, so you can go with the best for you!
Carol says
I’ve been using Wen for over a year now and love it…the problem is though, the expense! It’s ridiculously expensive for “conditioner” and the amount I have to use. I was my hair about twice or three times a week (yucky housecleaning, hot humid days of “sweat-head”). Every time I’m using the Wen I think…hmmm…why wouldn’t ANY conditioner “wash” your hair since Wen is a conditioner? I just haven’t had the courage to mess up my hair even for a day (and have to wash it again – its very long and curly and frizzy and a total pain!) but I’m going to try using my Jason Organic conditioner to WASH my hair! I’ll let you know! If that doesn’t bide well, I’ll get the Suave…Thanks for the great advice!
Jessica Hebert says
I have been co-only washing for 6 months now and have experienced the same Wowwww !! Moment. My face is clear and my hair is bouncy, healthy and finally growing!! My favorite is VO5 cucumber, it smells sooo good and is super cheap. My husband loves my new hair.
Rene' @ thedomesticlady.com says
Rebecca, I got “best hair” in high school but it’s been all downhill since then. I am forever grateful for the tip. I am on day 6 of no poo/co wash. My hair is fine, curly and long. I condition every third day. And I rinse it on the other days. It’s like my hair has been given new life.
Thanks again
Rene’
laura says
Just tried this – I am amazed! Wasn’t sure how I expected it to go as I have quite oily roots and dry, splitty ends (I have highlights & my hair is pretty damaged) but having just dried it my hair looks fuller and bouncier and not greasy or weighed-down at all! Definitely a Co-Only convert; thank you so much!!!
Diana says
I’ve been doing the conditioner only for about 4 years now. What lead me to it was looking for a way to color my hair without the $125 a session price tag, the damage to my hair from hairdresser mistakes and the harsh chemicals which are known carcinogens. Not to mention I hated rearranging my entire day to go to the hairdresser every 6-8 weeks for 2 hours to cover my grey roots. That search led me to a website called hennaforhair.com, and I discovered the wonders of using natural henna for hair color. I did it and never looked back, and I’m still loving it 4 years later. I could select any hair color from blond to brown to black to red with any shade in between. My hair is healthier than it has been for decades, and I constantly get compliments on it, I’m loving it.
Margaret says
Do you find Henna covers the grey well?
Christy Snyder says
I’m sick of having really bad acne. I know it’s because of hair shampoo/conditioner. Some make my hair feel waxy and oily and gross. I usually shampoo and condition my hair every other day. I just can’t take having an irritated face anymore! So here I am searching Google trying to figure out what’s causing my acne. Is it shampoo or conditioner. If I wash my hair Monday morning, it will be oily by Tuesday night and I will be washing it Wednesday morning. I was using Dove product and I switched to Suave Professional Naturals? I think that’s what it’s called. Here we go again with all this acne. Unilever owns both of these companies. I was using Pantene when it started to clear up. From what I’ve read Pantene is the one that usually causes acne. So, I’m really confused! I was thinking about doing shampoo only and I read this and I can’t decide what to do. I have sensitive skin, acne prone skin, silky curly beautiful hair but it does frizz like most curly hair. I just want it to smell good, not be greasy, and to not have acne!!!!!!!
Rebecca says
Christy- I’m not a dermatologist, so take my advice with a grain or five of salt. If something works for you- do it regardless of what works for other folks… I know how frustrating the acne is. I hope your solution is nearby!
Rebecca says
…one other thing- maybe silicone in those products is making your hair feel waxy? Just something to consider!
Rahel Moore says
I think this is a neat idea and I will want to try it too! Now just to get the courage up and do it! 🙂
Ursula says
Rachel, you don’t need courage just think about it. This won’t hurt your hair, and if you don’t like the results don’t do it again. But what you’ve been doing isn’t pleasing you 100% or you wouldn’t be thinking of switching.
Women and men on long hair forums all do this–and they would not risk their hair!
I do this. I DO use silicones, the water soluble kind. Those begin with PEG- or end with –amine. My conditioner is also Suave. My hair instantly looked FABULOUS!
Also immediately resulted in a lot less shedding, but I don’t know if that’s due to CO washing, or another treatment I am using.
Go for it!
Ann Marie says
So what do you do on the days you do not use the conditioner? Do you wet your hair with just water ?Want to try it and see…I have lifeless hair and am trying to figure out what to do with it…don’t have time to do anything with it with 4 kids and usually it end up in a clip 🙂
Rahel Moore says
I am curious about this exact thing too!
Nicole says
I don’t wet my hair in between. I just style it in the morning. (I use the term style loosely, because with a little kid, who really has time for much.) Usually the second day I can wear it down again. and the 3rd and 4th day I wear it in a messy bun or pony or something. I still use dry shampoo if my hair feels really greasy. I don’t know if that is against the “rules” of conditioner only washing, but I love the stuff.
nicole says
I had the same problem with baking soda/vinegar! My hair was clean, but was sticky and very, very tangled and dry. So I decided to read up on other no poo options and I found your blog. Going conditioner-only has been amazing for me!
I started CO with a conditioner with silicone, and I agree about the weighed-down look
Fortunately, the BEST conditioners for CO are dirt cheap.
I’m glad someone else had the same issue with soda/vinegar, because I was not going to go back to an itchy scalp. Thank you!
Shelley says
Well, it took me a month to work up the courage to try this. I am here to tell everyone that it works!!! My hair looks and feels wonderful. Between this beauty tip and all the recipes from your blog that are now standards in my home, you have my everlasting gratitude. Keep up the good work!
Rebecca says
Thank you so much for letting me know. I am so happy to have contributed a little happiness!
Chanda says
Great article! Love your writing style. I’m going to try this. I have medium length very wavy (most people would say curly) fine (not thin) hair. I can blow dry it straight or scrunch it really curly but I want to just wear it natural and I can’t figure out how to do it. When I just let it dry, it looks like crap. I look like I slept in the woods except there’s no leaves in my hair. I tried the baking soda/ vinegar thing and it’s okay but if I work up a good sweat, then I start to smell like Captain D’s. Like you, I ain’t got gobbs of money to throw down for something that might or might not work. I’m a health nut too so all natural is what I’m looking for.
Nadia says
Loved your blog 🙂 I’ve been co washing for about 2 years now and even got my hubby into it. Works great for us!
Rahel Moore says
Do you do it everyday? I have super oily hair and skin!
Mary Jo says
i am going to try the co-only method after having tried the no-poo method with mixed results. I would like to never have to buy shampoo again if I get the same results others have. My concern is that I have a teenage daughter and son, both in 3 high school sports. They shower alot, two and three times a day each alot. Do you think the co-only method would work for a boy with thick short hair and a daughter with waist long straight hair that get sweaty at least 2x a day?
Thanks for any insight