Facebook fans: You spoke and I listened! Here is the first in our series of crunchy (read: natural or low-effort) beauty tips. It may sound crazy to recommend Conditioner Only Washing (No Shampoo) and I don’t pretend to be a beauty expert, but I know what makes me feel good. And if it makes ME feel good, maybe it’ll make some of you feel good, too! If you don’t like this series you should probably become a Facebook fan so you can shout me down when I float these hair-brained (HAIR BRAINED, GET IT?) schemes of mine.
What’s blogging without a giant confession, right? I have one. But first, I have to say, I can’t even believe I’m doing a Beauty Tips post.
I’m no Audrey Hepburn or Audrey Tatou or any other Audrey for that matter. I’m a stay-at-home mom of five boys. BOYS. I ask them to brush their hair and they run screaming from me like I’m brandishing a hot poker at them instead of a hairbrush.
I grab for a warm washcloth to fix a pudding smeared face and the screams might make you think I’m wiping them down with acid. I suggest that perhaps they might want to change the shirt they’ve been wearing for a week solid and it’s greeted with a befuddled look, shrugged shoulders and a “NothankyoumomI’mcomfy.”
In short? I’m pretty much on my own here. I don’t even have a frame of reference for what is trendy or hip or even socially acceptable any more, so honestly, I don’t know how many people are going to get squeamish over what I’m about to say.
…Which is this…
I haven’t used shampoo in two and a half years. Yes. That is my beauty tip. No shampoo. (I can hear you now, “…And you’re surprised your boys are gross?”) Obviously there’s a bit more to it or everybody would be doin’ it, right?
Here’s a little history. After I had my youngest son a little over nine years ago, I felt perpetually rumpled. I had just given birth to my fifth child in eight years.
Translation: I was lumpy and hormonal. Translation of the translation: out of shape, shedding hair like mad and had spotty skin. The hair that remained attached to my head was scarcely behaving better than the stuff that fell out in handfuls in the shower/on my pillow/standing still. It was cottony looking, dry and my scalp itched like mad. (Boy, do I sound like I was a looker or WHAT?!?)
I embarked on a path that seemed like a good idea to clear up my lumpybumpy body, skin and hair problems. I started buying expensive creams and shampoos from the salon. And that?
Well, it didn’t work and it left me with bottles and pots and jars and squeeze tubes of things that were disgustingly expensive and useless. Then I tried all-natural shampoos/conditioners/beauty products. That didn’t work at all either. And the blue aloe mud bug organic herbal tinctures and shampoos and salves and whatnot were even more expensive than the professional products.
About five and a half years ago, my bathroom closet was overflowing with what amounted to more than a car payment’s worth of things I’d never use again. As a last ditch effort, I turned to the internet and googled a string of keywords that sounded like the punchline in a fairy tale:
“Straw, Hair, Pimples, Balding, Magic Shampoo, Smooth, HELP”
Rumpelstiltskin didn’t show up, but I got a list of websites that said, “No Poo”.
“But I’m not constipated, my hair just looks like cotton balls!” thought I, until I read a little further. These blogs were all talking about giving up shampoo and solving their hair problems. “Er, okay. Whatever.”
But I was desperate enough at that point to keep reading.
Over the next couple of weeks, I tried the baking soda/vinegar solution that many no-poo-ers recommended. That worked for a while, but left my hair feeling sticky. My husband had sniffed my hair when I got out of the shower and told me I smelled like a pickle. (From him, that’s a compliment. Hubby loves pickles.) I, on the other hand, missed the pretty smells of shampoo.
I tried Wen by Chaz Dean because I saw the commercial on television and any guy who can toss his hair like the Breck girl seems like a pretty solid authority on silky hair. The problem there was that it was insanely expensive and I had long hair.
I knew it wasn’t a tenable long term solution and I was only feeling so-so about the results so it was tough to justify the cost.
I turned back to the omniscient interwebs for help and discovered yet another no-shampoo group who was less intestinally know as the co-only (short for conditioner only) crowd.
The long and short of co-only is that you only wash your hair with conditioner. Again, there’s a little more to it. You can’t just pick any old conditioner; it must be a silicone-free conditioner to keep from weighing your hair down.
There’s good news, though. ANYTHING in the Suave Naturals line is silicone free. In other words, one of the cheapest conditioners out there is perfect for the job, and it’s a good thing, too, because co-only washing consists of massaging palms-ful of conditioner in your hair and scalp and letting it stay there (preferably under a shower cap) while you complete the rest of your shower then rinsing it out.
In October of 2010, I tried it. I didn’t really have any great expectations. I figured I’d get out of the shower and find my hair lank and greasy and my scalp itchy. “This is it,” I told myself, “If this doesn’t work, I’ll just cut my hair short and go back to using shampoo.”
I was shocked to find it was the opposite. My hair felt as smooth as silk and not weighed down in the least bit. For the first time in almost a decade, my scalp didn’t itch to the point where I felt like clawing it off. And ladies?
When I tell you my hair looked good, I mean it looked goooooooooooood. As in it behaved and did what I wanted it to when I wanted it to do it with little effort and almost no product and smelled pretty to boot.
The next time I went to my hairdresser, I screwed my courage to the sticking point and confessed what I was doing. She said, “Wow! Are you kidding? Your hair looks great. I’ll have to tell some of my other clients about this.” I haven’t looked back from that point on and I’ve been conditioner only washing for four and a half years now.
IMPORTANT UPDATE: My hairdresser has gone on to recommend this to many of her clients and they have reported back with great results.
I wouldn’t yank your leg on this, folks. It truly has been the holy grail for me. When I gave up shampoo, it didn’t just clear up my hair problems, it eliminated my skin problems completely.
The pimples and acne that I had been blaming on my poor choice in beauty products and/or hormones went away almost overnight.
What I learned AFTER finding what worked for me was that shampoo was stripping the natural, protective oils from my hair and scalp and face (by virtue of its proximity to my hair- thank heavens). In order to make my skin and hair behave after doing that, I had to replace what I could with conditioner in my hair and lotions on my face.
For whatever reasons, my fish-belly pale skin was too sensitive for this routine. Eliminating the shampoo/conditioner cycle did the job for me.
Is this a solution for everyone? Maybe, maybe not. Some people have reported an adjustment period where their hair and skin acted like a petulant, oily child for a week or a month or so before becoming bouncin’ and behavin’.
I had zero funky down time with my hair when I switched to conditioner only. In the interest of full disclosure, I have never in life been a wash-my-hair-every-day kind of girl. The only time I’ve washed my hair two days in a row is after exceptionally sweaty gardening excursions or after a child threw up in it or used my hair as a napkin or -worse- a hanky.
Oh, come on… you KNOW it’s bound to happen with five kids, right?
Here’s my point. It’s worth a try if you’re frustrated with how your hair is treating you or horrified by the amount of money you have to spend to make your hair do what you want it to do. Let me break down the specifics on how I conditioner only wash my hair.
How to Conditioner-Only Wash Hair:
- Wet your hair thoroughly in the shower, massaging your scalp.
- Squirt a palmful of silicone-free conditioner into your hand and massage it into your scalp and the hair near it.
- Squirt another palmful of silicone-free conditioner into your hand and massage it into the rest of your hair. Repeat this until all of your hair is saturated with the conditioner. If your hair is thick and lower-mid back length like mine, you’ll need about 4 palms-ful to coat your hair and scalp.
- Pile your hair on your head to keep it out of the shower stream. If you have one, put a cheap-o shower cap on to keep the conditioner from rinsing away.
- Complete whatever else you need to in the shower; wash your bod, shave, whatever.
- Add a splash of water to your hair and scrub your scalp again, then rinse your hair fully.
- Dry/Style/Whatever your hair as usual. For me, most often this means blow-drying my bangs so they don’t lay funny and letting the rest of my hair do whatever it wants. This is what works best for me!
- Do this two to three times a week. Unless you’re working out HARD daily or having someone wipe boogers in your hair, this should be sufficient.
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Use this for Conditioner Only Washing (No Shampoo):
- Suave Naturals Coconut Conditioner (This 6 pack is a “Subscribe and Save” option on Amazon, meaning they automatically ship to you every month, two months, three months, or however often you specify!)
I’m feeling a little sheepish about even bringing this up here, so help a gal out. What do you think? Am I nuts? Would you ever try it? Do you want to sniff my hair to verify I don’t smell like a fryolator before giving it a shot or is this just completely off the table for you? Talk to me!
Update: This post was originally published February 15th, 2013. Because it has been more than two years since publication and because I am still going co-washing strong, I wanted to bring it back to the front for the benefit of those who may not have seen it yet. The number of people for whom this has made a huge difference -as evidenced by the comments below- is pretty awesome.
Reader's Thoughts...
Vanessa says
I have just started the no shampooing. I read that you condition 2-3 per week. I shower everyday, should I rinse my hair or keep it dry the days I’m not conditioning?
jan says
Wondering???? I use styling products i.e. gel…… will CO still work for cleansing?
Rebecca says
Hi there! I don’t use products much, so I’m afraid I don’t have any first hand knowledge, but like I’ve mentioned to other folks, what can it hurt to try? I say give it a go on a day you don’t have to go anywhere so if you need to re-wash, it’s no biggie!
Amy says
I am going to give this a try, I do wash my hair everyday, if I don’t then I get terribly itchy, hoping this will help with that.
Rebecca says
I hope it works out for you, too, Amy!
Helen Goh says
HI,
I ‘ve always been told to use hair conditioner for the ends of the hair n never on the scalp as it causes the hair to
drop. (as advised by all the hairdressers I go to. ) As such I am hesitant to give it a go as my permed coloured hair
is already thinning. PL help!
Rebecca says
Again, I’m not a hair dresser. I’m just a person sharing what worked for them. If I were you I’d go for it and try it at least once or twice, but that’s just me! If it works, wouldn’t that be great for you?
Chrissie says
Oh my god been trying so many different conditioners for years and have just tried the conditioner only method.
Amazing really shocked always assumed you had to shampoo first but just conditioner works really well thank you for the advice 🙂
Georgia says
Hello. I am glad that I found this post, since I have a question you could help me with. I am 40 and natural brunnete. I have been dying my hair blonde for the past 4-5 years. The last year my hair got very dry and LOTS of breakage begun, although all my life I had strong thick hair. I literally lost HALF of my hair length! I stopped bleaching my roots, and switched to dying it blonde in the salon only with the use of hair dyes with no bleach at all. And lately I decided to switch to silicone and sulfates free products, since I keep reading all over the internet how good that treatment can be for our hair. But I really hate how crunchy it feels with all those products (shampoo, hair mask, hair oil etc) having no silicones at all in them. I know it is normal to feel your hair crunchy and dry when switching to a silicone-free treatment but I really miss how soft my hair used to feel when back in the days the products I used had silicones in them…. 🙁
Taking under consideration, that I am no natural blonde, do you think switching to your method with just the conditioner or hair mask (silicon free) used when washing and no shampoo, would make a difference to that cruchyness I feel? Or the fact that my hair are dyed could actually be an obstacle and maybe this works best for natural colored hair? I really love my blonde color, and deep down I want to keep up with the silicone free method I adopted lately, but I find it very hard when my hair feels soo dry and crunchy….. 🙁
Rebecca says
Gosh. I wish I was a hairdresser so I could tell you whether it would work, but I would like to encourage you to try it anyway since it’s no more expensive than a bottle of conditioner and an extra shower if you don’t like the results! 😀 What if it makes all the difference in the world?
linda says
Both my daughter and I had ‘sticky’ hair at the same time, rather weirdly! Never had it before and then started researching it and found it was quite common. The Somaluxe Shampoo came recommended by my doctor so I decided to try it – after the first wash, the difference was amazing. Immediately after rinsing I could feel my hair as ‘squeaky’ clean again for the time in weeks / months. Now it has fully air-dried, my hair is back to it’s usually dry bounce once again and feels great….my daughter said the same. So pleased and happy to spread the word that the Somaluxe Shampoo works for sticky hair!
Kimberly says
Well, I am desperate here. I have been bleaching (roots only) my hair for YEARS. I do this because I use bright colors in my hair. But, I am having a considerable amount of trouble with split ends. I will get my hair trimmed, as I did yesterday, and it still ends up splitting again – without putting any more product on it. I tried this for a few days this past week, but my roots looked greasy….though the ends and underneath felt better. I did not put it up in a cap or anything, just left it on until the end of the shower. Am I doing something wrong or is there a suggestion for that?
Rebecca says
I have to say that I’m not a hair dresser, so any advice I’m giving should be taken with that in mind… that being said, maybe your hair ends are more brittle because of all the bleaching? Many people report an adjustment period with their hair when switching to conditioner only, so you can try to stick it out for another week or two, or maybe it isn’t for you. I’m also curious about how often you wash your hair… You said a few days last week, so it makes me wonder if you’re co-washing daily which -like any daily shampooing or washing regimen- is going to encourage oil production on the scalp.
Viv says
Great article! I sort of came at this from the other direction. I’ve been water only for a couple of months, and I’m away for the weekend. I felt my hair needed something, so used my daughter’s silicone free conditioner for a wash this morning. Looking rejuvenated!
Rebecca says
Water only, eh? That sounds intriguing. Just hot water? Or hot water followed by cold?
Ashley says
Hi I have use your co-only idea for the first time and it totally didnt worked for me at all instead my hair are now more dry even the hair on my scalp beause I put the conditioner on my sclap as you said and I have a little dandruff and I have curly hair.So my question is that shold I try it again or leave it.Thank you.
unop says
I have hair down to the middle of my back and have cut down to washing every other day. I use the Somaluxe Exotic Conditioner from just below my neckline and down through the ends. It rinses out nicely and I can comb through my hair nicely (I use a wide tooth comb and the “wetbrush”). I love that it has argan oil already in it, so I dont have to spend so much money buying an extra argan oil!
Mandi says
I have been reading a lot about the “no poo” method and was looking into trying the baking soda/ACV routine with my hair, but I may start out with the co-only first.
My hair is shoulder length and it is dry, brittle, and riddled with split ends because I blow dry it, flat iron it, and curl it. I shampoo/condition 3-4x/week. My hair doesn’t have a lot of volume unless I curl it and tease it. When I flat iron it, it is pretty straight. It doesn’t get greasy until day 2 of not washing. When I blow dry, it gets really frizzy. But I have to blow dry, if I air dry, the top part frizzes and kinks like crazy and the ends curl up like crazy! Do you think the co-only method would work for me? I just worry about it weighing down my hair and making my ends crunchier than they already are 🙁
Rebecca says
My best advice is to try it out, Mandi. I’m not a hairdresser, so I have no special claim to knowledge other than that it worked for me!
AroundTheHair says
I have to say that I am going through same feelings as yours. I’ve tried many expensive as well as organic shampoos, I’ve also tried some steam therapy but none of them worked effectively. Thank God, I am reading your article. I am going to try this and will get back to you with results!
BTW you are looking awesome with your hair in second last image.
Erika says
I’ve tried this for about 3 weeks, and it works! I wouldn’t say my hair is drastically different, but I do think it is softer and a little shinier.
My favorite part? $1.00 bottle of Juicy Green Apple Suave compared to the $20+/- dollar of Aveda!!! 🙂 🙂 My pocketbook certainly likes this method.
My scalp issues aren’t any better or any worse…I imagine I really need to find a truly fragrance free version, but I just love that juicy green apple smell.
I’m amazed that my hair feels just as clean – it doesn’t even feel like there’s any residue.
Thanks for sharing your experience; for some reason I trusted you over a lot of the beauty bloggers that talk about this…I always trust a great cook! lol
Sassy Dove - Beauty with an attitude says
Love this! I’m a beauty blogger, but I’m consummately lazy when it comes to hair. I even wrote a post and book about girls who feel like we’re bad at doing our hair: http://sassydove.com/help-suck-hair-hairchallenged/
I started crunchifying my hair-doing routine when I started growing it out and experimented with co-washing. I definitely think it made my hair healthier!
Candi says
OK! You are awesome. My head, scalp, brain has been itching for 2 years. I’ve been using an (expensive) natural, peppermint-oil infused shampoo to help remedy this.
It only helps temporarily….. then the itching returns. No, I don’t have lice.
I am all over this. Sign me up for the co-only crowd!
Z says
Have you tried tea tree oil?
Brenda says
I rarely use shampoo on my hair during cool weather, but working in a commercial kitchen during the summer, I have to shampoo every now and then. I found that my mature (graying) colored hair responds much better with conditioner only.
My question to you is….have you ever tried “oil pulling” for your teeth? People think I am crazy, but this is truly wonderful! A spoon of coconut oil swirled in your mouth each morning and my teeth and gums are so much more healthy and all without toothpaste! Just wanted to give you a heads up!
Rebecca says
Thanks for the feedback, Brenda! I actually HAVE tried oil pulling and love it!
Heather says
I recently started having nightmarish dry/flaky scalp issues, and decided that the only solution was to just stop shampooing my hair. I had tried the baking soda/vinegar combo, sulfate-free shampoos, witchcraft, etc. Nothing was helping. But conditioner only seems to be working thus far. I have really thick, wavy, reddish hair, so it requires a lot of conditioner. But if it’s working then I’m in! Thanks so much for the article, it’s comforting to know that I’m not alone!
Nancy Long says
Wow, I’ll be trying this – have had problems with my hair and scalp for years and nothing helps – I’ve been attributing my hair loss to my low thyroid, which is probably partially true, but am willing to try most anything at this point
Erika says
I”ve always been scared to try this, but might give it shot. I trust your opinion much more than other posts I’ve seen about this 🙂 And bonus…Suave is such an affordable brand!!
You have beautiful hair!
Beth in Iowa says
I too have become a co-wash only person. I have very thick, very curly hair that hangs about the middle of my back. I have been using conditioner only for about 2 yrs now and have not looked back – I also use the Suave products and have very little need to put much of anything else in my hair to tame and control the crazy curls. I also just let it air dry. The $$ saved is AMAZING!! Give it try, you will not be disappointed!!