This picture is me alive with Diane Cu of White on Rice couple on Sunday afternoon. Phew. “Say WHAT?” you ask.
You might think that as a professional food writer, recipe developer and cooking instructor (and thirty eight year old human) that by this point in life, I might just have a handle on how to eat properly, too. Right?
Well, in fact, no. Clearly I don’t. Let me back this story up a bit, though…
Last Friday I flew down to Orlando to attend the Food Blog Forum. This fabulous event put on by Jaden and Scott Hair, and Diane Cu and Todd Porter was to be attended and spoken at by a virtual who’s who of bloggers I had respected for years. Among those bloggers were David Leite, Elise Bauer, Julie Deily, and Lindsay Landis. I was thrilled to get the chance to connect with them at the Friday reception and went into Saturday’s classes ready to absorb all the wisdom they had to share with the rest of us. I connected with Elise Saturday morning just prior to breaking out of sessions for lunch. I’d wanted to thank her face to face for years for pointing me toward my beloved homemade root beer recipe and was overjoyed that I had finally delivered those thanks along with a hug.
I made a bee line for the conference room two doors over where lunch was being presented with bells and whistles and illuminated Tinkerbell plate flair by Disney’s children’s menu chefs. The room buzzed with the happy sounds of a hundred and fifty or so munching, laughing and chatting food bloggers and service professionals. I laid my hands on a delicious looking plate of food and attempted the trifecta of talking, walking and eating. That’s the first place I went wrong. Since I wasn’t at the table, I didn’t cut my food as small as I normally would. It wasn’t a slab of food I popped into my mouth, but it wasn’t a genteel bite either. And in a moment where I’m still not clear what happened, that bite of food slid to the back of my throat and lodged itself firmly over my windpipe.
I could not breathe. I could not cough. I could not speak.
I was completely terrified.
I then did what every single food service training and first aid training I’ve ever been to warned against doing. I tried to save face (because I knew that food had to come out of my mouth instead of going down) by walking briskly toward the door where I could hopefully cough and propel it outward. In my singled minded race for the door, I laid my hand on the back of Elise Bauer -who I had waited so long to thank- and pushed her to the side. I got out the door and tried to cough and that’s where I knew I was in very big trouble. There was no way to cough because to cough, you have to take air in first and baby? There was nothing coming in OR out. My head started swimming and -this isn’t pretty, but it’s true- my eyes watered and I had a river of drool pouring out of my mouth because I couldn’t swallow.
I’m not going to say my life flashed before my eyes but I will tell you at that moment when I realized it was dire, I had two thoughts.
“Lindy. The boys. Get help now!”
I ran back for the door and banged my hand as hard as I could on it to draw the attention of anyone who was nearby because I couldn’t talk. Have you ever tried to call for help and had ZERO ability to do it? That’s where I was. Thank heavens I wasn’t so far gone I couldn’t bang on a door. A couple of chefs and Disney representative looked my way and I held my hands up to my throat in the Universal Sign of Distress*.
*I’m going to talk more about this in a moment. Please… if you don’t want to read anything else, scroll to the bottom and read the information I’ve linked you to below. I’m serious.
I knew the chefs would’ve had the same training over the years that I had and would know enough to grab someone who knew how to help. I couldn’t have been luckier in where I choked if I tried even though I did everything wrong. A chef looked at me and asked, “Are you choking?” I nodded my head emphatically. He asked, “Do you need me to do the Heimlich?” I nodded even more emphatically and let me tell you, by that point, I knew I was close to passing out. He came up behind me, threw five good slaps at my back between my shoulder blades, wrapped his arms around me and gave one serious push in and upwards against my diaphragm. Thank the Lord in heaven that piece of pork and potato came flying out of where it had been lodged. I spit it out, gasped for air and starting coughing HARD. I’ve never been so happy to be drooling, have my eyes running enough to look like I was sobbing, and experiencing a coughing jag in public in all of my life. God love those Disney representatives. They helped me to a chair, brought me two glasses of water and kept their eyes on me while I gathered my wits and slowed the coughing. I assured them I was okay then and did not need medical attention (Yes. They asked. Repeatedly.)
I walked to the bathroom on rubbery legs to tidy myself up, then wandered back into the conference room a bit dazed. I found Elise and apologized for pushing her aside explaining what had happened while trying to keep my hands from shaking. She looked at me shocked. “I had no idea that was going on, Rebecca!” was her response. What was so clear and dramatic in my brain went unnoticed by all but one friend who had thought I was running for the door to throw up. Was it because no one there was observant enough? NO. I cannot emphasize that enough. It was because I totally endangered myself by trying to look normal and hide to preserve my dignity.
Can I say that again? I endangered myself.
How to Recognize Signs of Choking in Someone Else
Have I freaked you out at all? Do you know how to tell if someone is choking? Sometimes it’s obvious, but if someone tries to hide what’s going on like I did, it may be harder to tell. Here are some signs or symptoms of choking, courtesy of the Better Health Channel.
- Universal Sign of Distress. This is when someone has wide eyes and is clutching their throat with one or both hands.
- Gagging. If the person appears to be gagging or retching and nothing but drool or nothing at all is coming out.
- Coughing. If someone coughs uncontrollably this can be a sign of choking.
- Wheezing. If a person appears to be struggling mightily for breath or is audibly wheezing this can be a sign that the airway is blocked or partially blocked.
- Watery eyes.
- Red face.
- Inability to talk at all or at full volume.
- Panicked or distressed behaviour.
…This is all assuming you are the one who isn’t choking. But what if the tables are turned and you’re in the position I’m in? Many people clutch their necks as a reflex. I did not. I had to tell myself to do it.
What do you do if YOU are the person choking?
- Do NOT leave a room to avoid embarrassment. Stay where other people are and get their attention immediately.
- Try to breathe, swallow, cough or say a few words.
- Do your best to remain calm.
- If you’re not doing it as an impulse, raise your hands to your neck and use hand gestures to indicate to those around you what is happening. This is recognized universally as a sign of choking and is referred to as the Universal Sign of Distress.
- Cooperate with the person helping you.
So what do you do if you’re alone and choking?
- I won’t lie. This is now one of my personal nightmares. Take a moment or two to familiarize yourself with the Mayo Clinic’s recommendations on how to clear an obstruction from your airway by yourself. It may sound like a macabre use of time, but friends, it can save our life. You can’t think clearly (TRUST ME) when this is happening to you and you won’t have time to Google it. It’s just good sense to know how to take care of yourself in that situation. Take a few minutes and talk to your kids about how to do it (another personal nightmare, let me tell you.) Don’t regret not taking this chance.
Reader's Thoughts...
Anita says
Rebecca – so happy you are okay!! Thanks for sharing this info!
Rebecca says
Thank you so much, Anita!
Barb | Creative Culinary says
Chills at the thought of what you went through; it can happen so fast. I know; I’ve been with someone who had some food get lodged in her throat; by the time anyone knew something was wrong, we had to act FAST!
Great informative post and oh…by the way? SO glad it was not worse and you are able to share the importance of your experience and knowledge with others.
Rebecca says
I’m glad your friend had you around, Barb. It’s scary! Thank you so much… I’m so glad to be here to share it!
Angie | Big Bear's Wife says
Oh my gosh, Rebecca. I’m so glad that you are ok! That is super scary! So glad that there were people there that could help! hugs!!
Rebecca says
Me, too, Angie! Boy, when I go to a conference, I do EVERYTHING big!
Susan P says
A woman died from choking on a hot dog at a Cubs game on May 5th. While the National Anthem was going on, she collapsed over the seat in front of her. No one around her was aware she was choking. She died two days later. She was a 28 year-old school teacher. This is a very serious situation. Glad you are ok. Thanks for passing on the info of what to do.
Rebecca says
I’ve been mulling it over in my head quite a bit since it happened and I’m pretty convinced that the majority of deaths from choking just don’t have to happen. Education is key, truly, but not just for people who are AROUND people choking. I think we all need to have it drummed into us that embarrassment needs to be fought when we’re choking. Getting help is our best chance at making it!
Cheryl Bennett says
OMG. I had no idea that even happened until now! I’m so glad you are ok!
I even talked to you that day several times! How scary!
Rebecca says
I was more than a little weirded out by the whole thing and didn’t mention it much that day. I only shared it with a handful of people (I called my husband on the phone right after it happened then told the friend who thought I was running to throw up and just a couple other folks.) I’m just so glad it turned out the way it did!
Julie Moore says
I am so glad you’re ok! My mom had a similar experience at her workplace…at a doctor’s office. She was alone in the breakroom and thankfully had the presence of mind to find someone to help her. It is a scary thing for sure! I choked twice in my life like that according to my mother – I was too young to remember them. Thankfully there are things we can do to help, and this article is so helpful with recognizing the signs and knowing what to do. I am going to share this for sure. It could help save a life! Thank you for being so candid and real and being willing to share.
Rebecca says
Thank goodness your mom had the same moment of realization I did. Thank you for sharing your mom’s experience, too!
Julie Moore says
Yes, she described it very similarly to what you went through. There was that moment of “This is not going to get better. I need help NOW!” I’m just glad there was someone there to help. I’m glad there was someone there for you, too. After reading this, I am definitely going to brush up on my first aid training, especially the Heimlich!
Winnie says
I had tears in my eyes reading this. I am so glad you are ok. A friend of my husband’s choked to death in a crowded restaurant 🙁
I hope it’s ok that I shared this post on my blog’s facebook page.
Rebecca says
Oh Winnie… it’s more than okay. Thank you. I’m so sorry for your friend and I’m hoping that my close call ends up helping someone!
Meg Moseley says
Earlier today, I was thinking I should stop by and leave a comment to say how much I enjoy your blog–the great recipes, the Michigan connection, the funny stuff–and then I read this post. Yikes! And thank God you’re still alive! And thanks for sharing so we can all learn from your close call. (Whew!)
Rebecca says
Thank you, Meg! For everything you said!
Anita Williams says
WOW!!! I am so glad you are okay and that you chose to share your story. I had a choking scare while driving with my mom. Long story short, I also had that moment when I realized I was in trouble. Luckily, I was able to self-dislodge….drooling and all. Your story brought tears of recognition and gratefulness for both you and myself.
You are sooooo right to talk about feeling embarrassed as the first reaction. That was my immediate response before knowing I choking “for real”. THANK YOU for mentioning this. I am sure you will save at least one life!
Rebecca says
It’s a weird feeling, isn’t it Anita? So scary at the moment you realize it’s not a drill. I’m so grateful there were people around to help!
bridget {bake at 350} says
Rebecca! I was reading this at kiddo’s piano lesson last night with tears in my eyes. Then, totally teared up relating your story to my boys. SO THANKFUL that you are ok. I cannot even imagine how SCARY that must have been.
Thank you for the great information. I know I learned this many moons ago, but definitely need a refresher. I absolutely would have tried to save face, too. Next time I’m a Disney, I’m going to search out your savior and give him a huge hug.
Girl! You’re only allowed milkshakes from NOW ON!
Rebecca says
Well, shoot. Milkshakes only sounds pretty darned good to me, Bridgie! I vote for that!! I’ve asked Jaden to find a contact for me so I can thank the guy who saved me. I was too shaken up at the time to think of getting his name.
It was definitely scary and I am feeling so grateful and blessed to have that voice in my head that said get help. I squeezed the heck out of my kids and talked to them about what to do right when I got home. ♥
Rachel @ Baked by Rachel says
Woah! I had NO idea this happened at all. I’m so glad you’re okay. You both brought me to tears thinking about it but also made me laugh “I’ve never been so happy to be drooling”. You have a way with words and story telling. But truly – I’m glad you’re okay and glad to have finally met you in person!
Rebecca says
Thank you so much, Rachel! It was wonderful to finally have the chance to meet you face to face. It’s funny… There were only two people in the room who knew I made for the door urgently: my friend who thought I was throwing up and Elise who I pushed. I am so grateful, though, that I was in a room full of people so I could get someone’s attention!!!
Bev @ Bev Cooks says
OH MY GOOOOOSH I’m so happy you’re okay, Rebecca! Wow. So glad. xoxo.
Rebecca says
Thank you, Bev… I’m awfully glad to be home!
Sheila says
Hokey Smokers! Thank you for writing this post! Oh my I have educated myself and thought often of how to help a child or another adult if they are choking, but never really gave much thought to what I would do if I choked, I would have probably done the same thing…dashed for the door. How’s Elise back did you bruise her as you sped by and pushed her out of the way? ; ).
Rebecca says
I hope I didn’t bruise her!!! Before that moment I had never considered what my response would be if I choked either. I’m very pleased that so many folks are thinking it over now!
Lesley Eats says
Oh, wow, I had no idea! Thank goodness you had your wits about you enough to go to the right person. I’m not sure I would have thought to do that. Thank you for this!
Rebecca says
Yeah- that urge to remain dignified and not hurl food from your mouth is pretty strong, but boy… It is so worth fighting that urge!!
Audra | The Baker Chick says
Oh man- I’m so glad you came out of that one alive. I had such a great time with you this weekend! Hope you made it home safe and sound!
Rebecca says
I had such a great time with you, too, Audra! I’m home and happy and in my jammies! How did you guys do getting home?
kelley {mountain mama cooks} says
Good lord girl! I am SO glad you had the where with all and the dignity to walk back in and get some help. I don’t know that many of us would have done the same. Even better, you’re sharing your story and some pretty darn useful info that we all could benefit from. xoxo
Rebecca says
Thank you so much, Kelley! I am glad I did, too. I’m so grateful!
Tieghan says
Oh my gosh! I am so happy you are ok! Thank you for writing this, it was so informative!
Again, thank god you are Ok!
Rebecca says
Thank you so much, Tieghan! I’m so happy to be home and able to talk about it!
Pamela says
Oh, my friend. My heart just stopped and now I am crying.
I’m so glad you are okay.
Thank you for using your scary happening as a teachable moment.
Rebecca says
You’re so welcome, Pamela. I’m glad to be home and okay. Thank you so much.
Rachel - A Southern Fairytale says
I am so thankful you are okay, and this scared the tar out of me.
Just had a talk with my son about slowing down while eating.
LOVE YOU
Rebecca says
I love you, too, Rachel. Thank you For taking the time to talk to monkey about slowing down while eating.
Rie says
Glad to hear that you are ok.
Rebecca says
Thank you, Rie!